Kathy writes, “The lie, 'I deserve to be happy all the time' is one of five I unpack in my new book, Screens and Teens: Connecting with Our Kids in a Wireless World.” (2015). Dr. Koch has some very compelling insights to offer regarding some of the deleterious effects of technology in society today, especially as this relates to raising healthy children.
Time Tuned Into Technology
A report published in 2009 by Stamford University concluded that Americans spend 90% of waking hours staring at glowing rectangles. The lead author of the report, Dr. Richard Menken said, “From the moment they wake up in the morning, to the moment they lose consciousness at night, Americans are in near-constant visual contact with bright, pulsating rectangles.” The researchers identified 30 varieties of glowing rectangles that play some role throughout the course of each day and offered, "We discovered in almost all cases that Americans find it enjoyable and rewarding to put their faces in front of glowing rectangles for hours on end,". Though there are many true benefits to the current technological revolution, it's a fact that increasingly engaging technology can be addictive and can have a more serious impact on children that have more difficulty in separating truth from fiction in media.
The Five Core Needs of Life
The fixation with artificial intelligence and virtual video worlds is especially poignant when we consider the types of media directed at children and how it influences their perception of reality and values. Dr. Koch doesn't just outline the problems. In another book, Authentic Hope, she goes into depth regarding how our sense of identity controls our behavior and how our five core needs can be met in much healthier ways than with video games. As you review the five core needs, its easy to see how a video-game world offers a very warped perspective on addressing these needs at an impressionable age of life. The first need is for security—Who can I trust? The second, identity—Who am I? The third, belonging—Who wants me? The fourth is for purpose—Why am I alive? And the fifth, competence—What do I do well? The full title of that book is Finding Authentic Hope and Wholeness: 5 Questions That Will Change Your Life (2005).